We Are What We Attract

Here’s the thing. Life reflects you. Simple as that.

If you’re walking around like a storm cloud — moaning, judging, complaining about everything — don’t be surprised when your life feels hard, heavy, and full of more problems. That’s not bad luck. That’s the energy you’re creating.

Now… I’m not saying you need to fake a smile and pretend everything’s perfect. That’s not real. But there’s a difference between feeling something and living in it.

"You can visit pain — just don’t build a house there."

Simple Truths That Make It Clear

Let me break this down with some easy comparisons:

• If you plant weeds, don’t expect roses to grow.(If you’re always feeding your life with anger or gossip, don’t expect peace.)

  
  

• If you only see the bad in people, you’ll miss the good ones standing right in front of you.(Start looking for kindness. You’ll start finding it.)

  
  

• If you never clean your house, it starts to stink.(Same with your thoughts — if you don’t deal with them, they’ll pile up and rot.)

  
  

• If you keep drinking poison, don’t ask why you feel sick.(That poison might be blame, shame, or just scrolling through negativity every day.)

Now try this instead:

• Speak kindly — even to yourself.

  
  

• Notice the sunrise. Say thank you for the small things.

  
  

• Let yourself feel sadness, but don’t let it chain you down.

  
  

• Catch your own bad habits — and don’t shame yourself for them. Just shift.

  
  

• Live in joy now — not “someday.”

  
  

"You don’t fix your life by thinking harder. You fix it by living better — one choice at a time."

Deal With It. Then Let It Go.

People walk around carrying emotional junk like it’s luggage they’re too proud to drop.

Old fights. Regrets. Things someone said ten years ago. Let it go.

It’s like keeping mouldy food in the fridge and wondering why your house stinks.Take it out. Clean it up. Make space for something better.

Face your stuff when it comes up. Be honest. Then move on. That’s how you stay light.

People talk a lot about free will — like we’re in total control, like we can plan and steer every little part of our lives.

But if you really slow down, you start to see something:

we can’t even control our next thought.

Go ahead. Try to guess what you’re going to think five seconds from now.

You can’t. It just shows up.

Thoughts come and go like birds passing through the sky. Some are helpful. Some are old echoes. Some are complete nonsense. But none of them are fully “you.” So why fight them? Why get tangled up in every little thing your mind throws at you?

“The mind is like the weather — it changes. You don’t have to chase every cloud.”

Think of that old song,

Row, Row, Row Your Boat:"Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream.Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream."

This isn’t just a simple children’s song. It’s a deep reminder of how life works.

Rowing gently down the stream means: don’t fight so hard against what’s happening.

Life moves like a river, flowing forward whether you push against it or not.

And the line “life is but a dream”? That means everything we think is solid — our worries, fears, the stories we tell ourselves — it’s all like a dream. It’s made up in our minds.

Nothing is as fixed or real as we believe.

If life is a dream, then fighting it with anger or control is like trying to stop a dream by screaming in your sleep — it won’t work. The best thing you can do is wake up gently, notice what’s real, and move with it.

“Free will isn’t about control — it’s about surrendering to what’s real and showing up with love anyway.”

The more you try to control everything, the tighter you hold on, the more life slips right through your fingers. True peace comes when you stop gripping so hard and just let go.

Let go of needing to fix everything. Let go of needing to be right. Let go of the belief that you’re meant to have it all figured out.

Your not. No one is.

What you do have control over is how gently you respond. How you breathe through the storm. How you meet this exact moment — because this moment is all there is.

So stop trying to master life like it’s a puzzle. It’s not.

It’s a river. And you’re in it. You can fight the current, or you can float with trust.

Either way, the river moves. Your peace comes when you stop swimming upstream.

Let go. You’ll float better when your being the true you .. the real you .

How to Take Control of Being Your True Self — While Letting Go of Control

Sounds contradictory, doesn’t it?

"Take control… but let go of control?""Be yourself… even though you didn’t choose who you are?""Follow the path… even though you don’t know where it leads?"

Here’s the trick most people miss:

It’s not about controlling your life. It’s about aligning with it.

Start Here: You Are the River, Not the Dam

Imagine life like a river.Most people are trying to dam it, redirect it, or swim upstream because they think they know where they should go. They’re controlling everything out of fear.

But when you start to wake up, you realise:

You are the river.And the only “control” you need… is to stop resisting your own flow.

You didn’t design the riverbed. You didn’t place the stones. But you can choose how gently, how truthfully, how joyfully you move through it.

That’s alignment — not resistance.

What About Free Will? Do We Even Have It?

That’s the deep part. Most of our thoughts? They just appear. Most of our choices? Shaped by things we didn’t choose — genetics, trauma, culture, time, environment.

So what’s the point, then?

Well… even if the movie’s been written,you get to choose how you show up for it.

You get to be the open-hearted character instead of the bitter one. You get to feel the joy fully instead of numbing out. You get to stop pretending. You get to trust the path, even when it makes no sense.

That’s the kind of “control” that changes lives — not force, but surrender with awareness.

So How Do You Do It?

Here’s the honest, practical way:

Stop Trying to Be in Charge of the Whole Journey

You’re not here to figure everything out.

You’re here to experience it fully.

Stop planning five steps ahead and start listening to what feels true right now.

Let Life Surprise You

When you let go of the version of life you thought you were supposed to live…Life gives you the one that was meant for you all along. Let go of needing to know.

Be Real, Even If It’s Messy

Don’t try to be perfect. That’s Matrix talk. Be honest. Be kind. Be raw. Be awake. Your true self isn’t something you “create” — it’s something you stop hiding.

Listen to the Whisper, Not the Noise

Your path won’t shout. It whispers. It’s that quiet knowing in your chest.The pull toward something simpler.The ache to rest, to move, to speak the truth.

Listen to that. That’s your flow.

You can’t control what life throws at you.

You can’t even control your next thought.

But you can:

• Stay present

• Be kind

• Let go

• Be real

• Trust where life is taking you, even when it’s dark

  
  

Control isn’t power. Awareness is. And surrender is the highest form of trust.— Alex Sully

So stop fighting. Stop pretending. And start listening.

That’s how you return to who you’ve always been underneath it all.

Stop Waiting. This Is Your Life.

You keep saying, “I’ll be happy when…”No. You’ll be happy when you decide to live differently. That’s the truth.

Stop waiting to be smarter, richer, skinnier, more healed.Start living like someone who deserves peace now. Because you do.

"You don’t need to fix everything. You just need to live like life is worth living."

So if you're wondering why life feels hard, or stuck, or flat — take a look at what you're putting out.

You want more love? Be more loving.

You want less judgement? Stop judging.

You want peace? Stop inviting chaos.

You want joy? Start creating moments of it, every single day.

It doesn’t need to be fancy. Light a candle. Cook a good meal. Sit under a tree. Speak truthfully.

That’s where life starts shifting. That’s how you manifest better.

In the End

• You are what you attract.

  
  

• You attract what you live in.

  
  

• So choose carefully — because the world is listening.

  
  

And remember: you’re not alone in this. We’re all just trying to walk each other home.

Now take a breath, let go of yesterday, and show up real.

— Alex