The Healing Trap: Why You Don’t Need to Be “Fixed” to Enjoy Your Life
- Alex Sully
- Jun 13
- 3 min read
Somewhere along the way, healing became a lifestyle.
A goal.
A badge of honor.
A never-ending quest to dig deeper, uncover more trauma, detox more pain, and strive for that elusive “highest self.”
We meditate, journal, breathwork, retreat, and purge. We say no to gluten, alcohol, sugar, drama, meat, people who aren’t “high vibe.” We chase peace like it’s a trophy. And when we don’t feel better fast enough, we panic—or we double down. Because if we’re not healing, we must be failing… right?
But what if that’s just another trap?What if spiritual healing—just like hustle culture, diet culture, and success addiction—is one more way we try to control life instead of truly living it?
☁️ The Myth of “Healed = Worthy”
There’s an unspoken belief floating through the self-help and spiritual world: “Once I’m healed, then I’ll be happy, lovable, peaceful, whole.”That’s a lie dressed in yoga pants and palo santo.
Here’s the truth: You don’t need to be fully healed to enjoy your life.
You don’t need to release all your trauma or transcend your ego or vibrate at some imaginary frequency to be deserving of joy, love, and good experiences.
Your traumas are not stains to be scrubbed off. They are part of your story. They shaped your tenderness, your creativity, your instincts, your humor. You don’t need to obsessively fix yourself. You need to love yourself—including the parts that still feel messy, angry, sad, weird, or stuck.
🌀 Healing as a Distraction from Living
Let’s be honest: healing can become an identity. When we feel powerless, it's tempting to make our pain our purpose, to constantly “work on ourselves” because doing feels safer than being. But constantly digging can turn into emotional self-harm if we’re never allowed to come up for air.
You’re not broken. You’re just human.
And life doesn’t have to be a 24/7 workshop.
Sometimes the most radical healing looks like this:
Laughing until your stomach hurts.
Eating something delicious and not overthinking it.
Hanging out with friends and forgetting what’s wrong with you.
Saying “screw it” and dancing anyway.
Being present, not perfect.
🔥 The Control Trap
Here’s what spiritual obsession, restrictive eating, extreme productivity, and even self-improvement can all have in common: control.
Control is seductive because it promises safety.“If I can just get it all right — my diet, my mindset, my morning routine — I’ll finally feel calm, worthy, untouchable.”
But life is chaos. Messy. Unpredictable.And joy doesn’t come from perfect routines.
It comes from connection. From letting go. From living.
🌈 What If Joy Is Enough?
You don’t need to ascend to another plane of existence.
You just need to enjoy this one.
What if the “path” is:
Laughing with people who get you
Expressing your creativity without needing to monetize it
Letting go of the need to be right, pure, or perfect
Feeling your feelings and then… moving on
Eating the damn cake
Letting others help you sometimes
Being ok with not having all the answers
Spiritual peace isn’t found in more crystals, more rules, or more shadow work. It’s in presence. Freedom. Fun.
🧭 You’re Not Here to Ascend — You’re Here to Be Alive
We’re not here to become something other than human.We’re here to experience what it means to be one — in all its beauty, strangeness, contradiction, and wonder.
So take a deep breath and drop the script.Let life be art, not homework. Let healing be natural, not a checklist. Let yourself be messy, loved, playful, inconsistent—and alive.
Because maybe the real spiritual path… is joy.
And joy, my friend, is always available—no enlightenment required.
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